In the past few years it has been my mission to bring rh negative people together. More than anything, I have had to get myself together. That is … in terms of adjusting to no longer feeling out of place, but rather found and safe.
But this is something that required a little bit adjustment.
And here are a few things I have discovered about myself and rh negative people in general:
1) We are so used to adjusting to feeling out of place, that it is hard to let go and just be
2) We have to learn that other rh negatives are as sensitive as we are
Growing up in an insensitive world, we are often used to shielding ourselves and not having to worry too much about coming off cold, as that is a part of what makes the world the world. But when getting close to people it is important to allow their essence to dictate the interaction alongside our own energy.
In those terms, we can often be surprised that what we use as common communication tools sets a sour note.
Being honest to ourselves is a must and accepting that the people we are coming in contact with are getting us without the need to explain ourselves or putting up a self-protective persona can be quite challenging.
Which is why my general advice goes as follows:
Do unto others as you would have done to yourself is not always the best advice in a world where dogs eat dogs.
But when in a community of rh negative people, this strategy can go long ways.
And one more things: When emotionally hurt, rh negative people, though feeling it strongly, won´t always tell you straight up as we are used to disappointments. But just because something isn´t said doesn´t mean it isn´t there.
So let go, be yourself and take your time to get to know the real person. And allow them to get to know you.
And don´t be too afraid to say the wrong thing. We all make mistakes. So let´s make them together and grow as a whole knowing that whenever we are in need of healing, we have each others to come back to and help one another shine through as our true selves.
3) Rh negative people can change their attitudes quickly depending on their surroundings
One of the things we all need to be stronger at is stand our own ground. As we need to make it in this world, we also cannot bend over too much to where our true self is no longer recognizable. It is never good to change. It is ok to protect oneself and keep a lot of us away from the eyes of the public. But that doesn´t and shouldn´t mean having to change to the point where we become a shadow of ourselves. All of this gets better the more rh negative people come into our lives as we have the option to communicate with each others when in need to be understood.
So be easy on yourself. Expect not too much from those you do not know and do not try to save the world.
You can´t. Even though we can all make a huge impact within the communities we choose to be a part of.
4) Rh negative people are born leaders, but terrible followers
A lot of times I have experienced people who are rh negative being full of doubt about themselves, but that is not something that we are born with. It is simply giving in to pressure from people who do not understand us and try to mold us into something they can handle better. If you have someone in your life trying to lead and overpower you, it is better to step back and chance feeling lonely for a while. Once you find your way again, you are likely to attract the right people. So be ready for the change you have always wished to experience and forgotten to fight for whenever things were getting tough and hope to ever be able to break free crumbled. That was then … this is now. So live in the NOW!
And don´t be anybody´s voice but your own.
5) Rh negative people are not quick to judge
As a matter of fact, an open mind is what we all seem to have. So never assume that an rh negative person´s silence means disagreement or passive aggressive hostility. It can mean that the person, just like you, needs to re-adjust and let go realizing that they are in the company of someone who it is ok with to drop the need to hide a part of oneself.
Again:
Do unto others as to yourself, so while you give yourself a break, give it to other rh negatives as well and don´t always assume that every first reaction to something that you say contains a definite signal.
6) Rh negative people won´t tell you everything that they feel
That goes hand in hand with point number 3. But it deserves its own category. Because there is no end to what we can find in ourselves and other rh negatives once we let go. A lot of what society is built upon is fear and letting go of fear allows us to drop a persona we once felt necessary to develop. Let go of that fear. But don´t automatically let all rh negatives into your inner world. Sometimes rh negative people are still stuck in the pattern
of pleasing the people in their lives and expect you to go along with it. This is something very sad because we are not born to be parrots. Keep on blocking bad energies, even if they come from good people. But don´t make the blocking final.
Simply set limits. Once set, people often come around once they get it.
But one thing to learn with each others:
We are not weak and being sensitive does not equal weakness. So making the same assumptions most may make is something that will wind up being overcome when in the company of those who allow themselves to just be as we are. Welcome to the depth.
Life is simple. Keep it that way. And shake off whatever you have acquired that isn´t you. And you will realize how liberating it feels to really be accepted, because if should never be a challenge to find acceptance. It is a natural procedure and if you think back to your early childhood, I am pretty sure you yourself didn´t start out acting judgemental, even though at one point you may have received the impression that that is how you have to be. Even though you now recognize that this very attitude has kept you from meeting people who you truly connect with.
7) Rh negative people have dreams and visions
We may have forgotten them. But they are there. And they will come out. It may take time and people, but what once was there doesn´t die.
It may be covered by a mountain of confusion. So get uncluttered. This is our time. Welcome to your world!
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I’m just learning about rh-negative & I’m very curious. Thank you. A-
Thank you Mike . This is sooo right on point. You know we’re good. Loyalty yes!!! Season’s Greetings!
Omg, almost a whole year later of this article and I’m barely finding it (you)!!! I’ve known about my being RH negative ever since my first child 12 years ago, but now unto my third and because of his own life’s path and newly found ‘disability’, I’ve been doing a lot of research on him and then started finding a possible link to my blood type. After numerous evaluations and the reassurance of doctors, my son’s diagnosis is not because of me as I received the necessary intervention of RoGham in time and it’s just more of ‘it could of come from anywhere, but the point now is, what to do going forward?’ (Regarding my son’s new founded diagnosis). But I am now left with this RH negative door left wide open in my entire being and I’m on a mission to do just as you first wrote, ‘Bring us all together’. I must say, I am skeptical of some things only because I just am still learning myself, but I am relieved I’ve begun to find those of you who share my blood type. So I’m reaching out!!!! Please, let’s chat, stay in touch?! This is an exciting time for ALL OF US!!!
Hello, Selina. I am the first born of a rh- mother, born 1964 (pre Rhogam), and was recently classified as ‘disabled’ by the UK welfare system. Discoveries made in New Zealand (2007) revealed the previously unobserved consequences of primary (first born) RHD (rhesus disease): chronic fatigue, chronic cerebral depression, weak heart; tendency to cardiac arrest, seizures, anaemia & sub-diagnostic schizophrenia. All of which indicates damage to bodily organs during birth, resulting from triggering of mom’s auto-immune system when her rh- blood came into contact with my rh+ blood. My two younger siblings died shortly after birth, in 1967 & 1968 because the auto-immune response would have commenced earlier in pregnancy.
Collectively, we are known as RHD survivors.
Note that RHD is now classified as a disability in the UK. Benefit claimants should specify this in ESA (welfare) claims, along with their life history in connection with the above symptoms. Also specify that the average age of death for RHD survivors is 50, the prime cause being a heart attack. The condition is not well-known, and comprehensive information is necessary in order to obtain a valid decision and avoid the hazards of a ‘fit for work’ classification.
In my case, the rh- factor appears to stem from my ancestry in Kornoy Island, Norway, where my female ancestors are each credited with only one child – suggesting subsequent babies did not survive.
That’s enough for one comment. I hope the UK welfare advice is helpful for some.
Best wishes from Glyn.
Pimlico, London.
I’m not convinced RhoGam works for everyone. I received the treatment but my A positive daughter (and only child) experienced mild jaundice about a week after birth and has some minor learning disabilities. I can’t be sure the LD is related as her dad also has some learning challenges, but I really wonder about the jaundice. That was weird.
I am also a- blood type and I am thankful that I have 4 healthy kids. 3 rh- and 1rh+ .I wonder about the jaundice thing as well I was born jaundice ,my dad as well both of us with no rhogram. All 4 of my kids where also jaundice. all 6 of us at different levels. . My dad is a- as well both of us born to a rh+ mom.my father had the backwards affect with the rhd .My gma is a+ he a- and had the same complication as if it was the other way around. I don’t know about the one kid thing my family all has atleast 2-3 as min. But it is nice to see people are trying to gather us “weirdos” together😎. Love for all .
I wrote a long comment here. It was rejected because it apparently looked like a bot.
I hope you can recover it.
I have never rejected a single one of your comments. Unless there are words like “alien” in it which I have added to the spam filter, there is no way it was removed.
No, I didn’t think you had. It was an automatic reply with the word “bot” (as in robot?) in it.
Ah well. Better luck, hopefully, next time I post!
Nope. Not a thing in there. Even in the spam filter. Unless it is something WordPress “caught”, I didn’t delete it.
I have known I was Rh neg for many years but never thought much about it. Recently it has peaked my interest to learn as much as I can. I am an adopted child, a ‘chosen child’ as I was told from my earliest memory so, 1. I have no hindrance or negativity about being adopted – in fact I see it as a good thing in my life and 2. I have NO interest in finding my birthparent(s) via any DNA programs.
Im hoping for links to places to learn how this has been such an integral part of my life w/o going into depth w a long dissertation. I hope I can find some help and direction to answer questions I have on how this blood type has created/led me to where I am now.
Hi Mike,
Everything above in the article is pretty accurate. What’s our purpose here ? Ive struggled everyday since I was a small child with that question. Outcast for sure, abandoned by family for no reason. I never complain about the constant neglect today now in my 30s with 3 children one on the way none a negative blood. My husband’s also a positive blood and reminds me that there is something wrong with me in the way I even just sit there and watch a movie. I supposedly have an INTP personality type, is anyone else that’s a negative ?
I’d just like to know what the purpose of this difference. I know I’m supposed to do something but it’s out of arms reach ? Does any one else feel that way ?