Are you a lover and a hater?

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1. Miss K August 23, 2018 Reply

   Not the case for me, at all. I have a variety of emotions and try not to judge people and believe people can change for the better or worse depending on their circumstances. In fact I have been known to forgive those who clearly despise me, through no fault of my own but just due to prejudice or jealousy, although I have learnt not to be that forgiving!

   I also know another RN who is a little naive in my opinion, ie will take take all people at face value and believe whatever they say, despite being in late 40s. He falls for all male and female and sees only greatness in all. However, I think he does seem to react with absolute disgust and revulsion when he discovers that they were not truthful. Then, I think he does absolutely despise them, so the love/hate thing may be accurate as you say, at this point.

   I think it’s better to not believe everything a person tells you and to accept that MOST will only tell you what they want to you know. This way you will not be too disappointed later and the rollercoaster of love/hate can be avoided.

2. Grant Schultz August 23, 2018 Reply

   When I interview a prospective tenant, I find that those that blurb out there life story in 5 minutes, and tell you how great they are, at this and that,
   These are the liars.
   They contradict themselves and their stories change little by little.
   I ask lots of questions . Sometimes the same question, to see if you get a different answer. Do they look you in the eye. Do they get nervous and fidgety ?
   Fool me once, shame on You. Fool me twice, shame on Me.
   Love thy fellow man as thy self. If you don’t you have a problem, that needs to be resolved. Because hate is very corrosive and destructive to ones future.
   Grant

3. Stacy Lemonds August 23, 2018 Reply

   Thank you for your post! I’m exactly this way! I’m either all in or all out when it comes to love and hate. I’m a reactor. I can tell by the first sentence meeting someone if they’re real or fake. About the health aspect, I ALWAYS listen to my body. I can tell you , I LOVE people mite than I don’t love them. However, when I see another Rh- person is attacked whether physically or verbally, I’m like a rabid wolf!

4. Catherine Stockton August 24, 2018 Reply

   I find it very hard to actually feel hate for someone unless they hurt something I hold dear to my heart such as my family. In relationships when the trust dies love will normally die with it and as hate is akin to love if you continue to love what you have lost you will eventually begin to hate. It is not worth the energy. I find I can let go easily and move on with the belief that something else is just around the corner even if it is not. I do not hold grudges – they use up too much energy. I may dislike a lot of people but hate eats at a person and destroys who they really are. Life is far to short to worry about holding on to things that have gone – move on to brighter things. You may find a lot more people that you like than you love – they are called friends

5. Christa Guenther September 24, 2020 Reply

   I can’t think of any person that I hate or would wish to be harmed, I even get along with my ex-husband and his wife and really wish them well. I tend to be a very flawed person and I also assume that many people are doing the best that they can and also make mistakes. So, with people, I tend to be very flexible and forgiving. However, I am very black and white on what is right/moral and what is wrong/immoral. I don’t hate the people who act according to what I believe is immoral nor do I even dislike them, but I can absolutely hate a behavior! For instance; child abuse. Whoa, that will make me incredibly mad that something happened, but having been the mother of 5 children, I can also see where it would be easy to be tired, frustrated and step over that line especially if you don’t have a support system.

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