I have forgotten one, or rather… the title was getting too long:
Colleagues at work. Or fellow students.
People you interact with.
List the top 10 you have most interactions with.
Separate them by interactions by choice vs. interactions by requirement.
Who do you choose to interact with.
Who would you like to interact with who you haven’t interacted with much or at all?
Is there a way to shift the list of the top ten where more of the ones you want on the list wind up on there?
The key is to connecting when you have to and limiting contact, so you can give more time and energy to those you desire to be in contact with.
Dreams can often help guide us.
Not just about who we dream, but about whom we don’t dream.
Many times you pass by people daily you would likely connect with greatly if the connection was to be made.
Others you do deal with on daily bases you have interactions with that leave you empty.
Are you brave enough to ask random people what their blood types are?
I am.
And the reactions vary from deep interest to a look of disgust.
Do I care?
By the reaction I can often tell if the person is someone who is on my wavelength.
Or rather: Someone who is not judging. Someone who has a desire to learn what they don’t know yet. I have been lucky to connect with leading scientists. I have also learned not every scientist by study is one by heart or energy.
Some are happy to have finished their studies and make a good income and no desire to place more effort into it. Others are living their dream and on a constant quest for more knowledge. When there is a symbiosis of such energy and knowledge, the majority of conversation in your “previous life” seem obsolete. You realize how much time you have wasted and how much you don’t know.
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my father used to say, you can count your true friends on one hand. and if you think you have more than that, you’re in trouble, it means you haven’t figured it out yet. I’ve been very fortunate, I’ve been in different circles, lived in different countries, had different kinds of work, and even though it’s a smaller subset, it’s a lot of people that you run into that are compatible. At least five anyway.
It’s interesting to contemplate these questions you pose Mike. One thing that has been constant in my life in various settings in crowds, restaurants, or passing people on the street, every now and then I’ll look up at someone’s face – in their eyes and feel a zap of recognition, or energy and extreme interest. It often feels like I’m missing an opportunity to connect as we walk by each other. It most often happens with males, but does happen with females too. I’m not talking about sexual attraction, although sometimes that is present as well. It’s something in people’s eyes, it can be quite shocking. I’ve been told many times throughout my life by both strangers and friends that I have extremely piercing blue eyes; so most often these “eye zap connections” have been with others who also have piercing eyes or gaze. I’m an A neg and have always been interested if other people have these eye zap connections. I’ve have a couple of close friends one, since college, always believe in quality vs quantity of friends. Not interested in having lots and lots of friends. Not on social media, not interested in that type of connection. I love faces and would rather see my friends and family.
Valerie, exactly the same for me. I don’t know why anyone would want to use “social media” for any reason, that’s a complete mystery. to have “friends” that you never met? they aren’t your friends, just be honest about it, they call them “friends” on facebook, as if they are. the entire platform of the concept is offensive.
but i agree with you, the eye recognition is profound and powerful. I always assumed it was DNA talking, because I’m from the far north in Norway. I can see it in their eyes mostly, mine are grayish green like seawater, but they change colours. my ex used to say, “we think the same”, and if you look out over a vast landscape, and one of you says, hey look at that, you’ll both know exactly what it is, a little rock over there behind that tree, or something small, nobody else would pick up on. The other side of this coin, is that “others” have no idea what you’re talking about, although it is quite plain and obvious.
So how come we don’t all get together more often is my question. What if people paid more attention, went out of their way to follow up on these hunches, and starting just asking questions. I ‘ve done that, and encourage everyone to do the same. It doesn’t matter if you agree or even like each other, doesn’t matter. My father said “we talk to each other on the ferry to the mainland , even though we don’t like each other, we share the same language”. and that’s pretty close to how I think today.