People are used to hearing fake empathy, so when you are being real, you might get labeled as autistic or having Asperger’s. And if you claim to have either, there are those who will argue that you being okay with it is disrespectful towards those suffering from it. And so on…
I witnessed this earlier hearing about someone passing and feeling I should say more. Someone I knew distantly. I remembered what was significant and mentioned it. I didn’t go into “I am so sorry to hear it” etc.
I felt obligated and when I feel obligated, I tend to just withdraw.
Empathy is based on how something truly hits you. Not how you react to it in the eyes of the audience.
So if you are told you might have Asperger’s because you’re not the only one saying “I am so sorry you had to go through this” when someone reveals something from their past, maintain your balance.
Your emotions will allow you to express what you wish to with those who have true empathy… not including those who are “known for their empathy” based on nothing else than what they say it, how much energy they force behind their words and how loud they express it to overshadow the other “mourners” in the room.
That is my opinion and my opinion only and I hope I have clarified how I came to it.