Tough question?
Why?
Years ago a friend of mine told me how a lot of times people, especially women, liked the things about him that he himself didn’t like about himself.
So the question now is why he and so many others do not like certain things about themselves.
Is it because we have been conditioned not to like or even mock certain traits not only part of us, but also attractive to those considering us as a partner?
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One thing I never liked about myself is my voice and worse my laugh. My voice is distinct and carries and my laugh? it’s obnoxious and nerdy. Yet people have told me, especially friends that they LOVE this about me. Okeee.
I noticed something about two years ago. My daughter sounds just like me laugh and all. I crack up when she gets on her tangents and especially when she laughs. We’re pretty contagious together. I’ve accepted this ridiculous family trait because she makes me love it. .
Working in the corporate world and being related and looking like Farrah Fawcett brought me sometimes kind and sometimes not so kind of attention from both males and females. Once, I had a female co-worker shout at me that she couldn’t be nice to me because I was too pretty. This hurt my feelings because I liked being friends with everyone, it’s just in me to be kind and nice to everyone.
Years ago, I quit going to our home church, because the main female organizers of activities in our Sunday school classroom told me that they will quit inviting me to any church outings because their husbands wouldn’t quit looking at me. Years later, when I see some of these females in our local Walmart store, I just feel pity for them for being so unkind to me years ago. I silently put their unkindness in God’s hands. (and yes, they still try to avoid speaking to me).
Not long ago, my own sister said she was always jealous of me growing up and she asked for forgiveness and I told her that I have always loved her and she is forgiven. She still struggles being nice to me and we have never shared sister things with each other. So sad, when all I ever wanted was a sister to do things with, like shopping and eating out together.
I have my own small business today, and both my male and female customers are very nice and we all appreciate each other. In my lifetime, I earned four degrees and very knowledgeable on many topics and many of my customers rely on some of my knowledge to help them. And on the same token, they offer me knowledge in areas that I am not familiar with like car mechanics, lawn mowers, hunting, fishing, and boating.
I will continue to be nice and kind to everyone because it just the way that I am, born into the world with lots of love and always wanting to help do my part in making the world a better place for humans to live.
No matter how mean others are just continue to be your kind self. A person’s behavior towards others is indicative of who they are not who they’re mistreating. I’ve experienced similar hatred from women and I never wish anything but the best for them. This may be something I never understand but I won’t let it put my light out and neither should you. Shine on 💕